Empowerment
Relationship Revolution Sparked by Love
DO focus on what you want in your life, not what you don’t want – remember the law of attraction. You have the power to create the relationship, the life, and the love of your dreams – even if the world around you seems messed up, don’t lose your focus.
DO imagine that what you dream of is in your life now, and feel grateful for it now…and after that think of 10 more things to be grateful for and then ten more, always be grateful for your partner or some aspect of your relationship.
DO have fun. Life is about being happy. Don’t wait until you have this, or that…Don’t put off happiness. Live in the Now. Enjoy Life Now. Those little happy moments add up big in the happiness quote.
DO seek to discover the truth about the meaning of your life. The answers are there if you look for them. Awareness and peace of mind and soul are high on the vibration’s list.
DON’T give away your power to people. Take responsibility for your life. If things aren’t going as hoped in your life, re examine your deepest beliefs. Swap limiting beliefs for empowering ones.
DO watch movies that will make you feel good and energize you. Listen to music that fills you with positive emotions. Read books that empower you. (Control the input to your brain, and you’ll control your output).
DON’T watch the news on television. It is filled with negativity which lowers your vibrations. (Why is 95% of all news all the time focused on bad news?) If you want to keep abreast of current affairs search the internet for independent, unbiased news. Seek the truth. Trust your intuition. This will also help you give you a much more balanced view of reality. There’s lots of good news out there if you’re willing to look for it.
DO help other people. Join a group that helps humanity. Forgiveness, compassion and understanding are good vibrations. So share that spirit and spark of energy that comes from within.
DO use tools and strategies to help you achieve higher levels of consciousness, such as meditation, yoga, exercise or simply a few deep breaths.
DO get a pet! According to Power vs. Force, a purring cat vibrates at 500 (anything over 200 is Good)…my pet dog Angus & Perkio must vibrate at least 800 with their loving licks and devotion!
Relationship Revelations
Aha…new love. There is nothing more intoxicating than the blissful feeling of new love. The future looks bright and hopeful with this new love in your life. Life has prepared you for this moment of commitment – right? No! Maybe! If you are unsure about being ready for this life changing event then read on and make sure you are prepared for the happily ever-after life.
The happily ever after dream…but, what is really in store for this new formed couple? Why is there so much doom and gloom? Well the stats say that almost half of marriages today will end in divorce. But does this need to happen to YOU? We say NO!
The top three rules to making a “happily ever after” life:
Rule #1. Have fun! Your getting married and you are probably having fun in the relationship. Great, remember this time in your life together and most importantly keep the fun in the relationship. The ‘fun’ might change as the years go by, but ‘fun’ is a key building block to a long healthy relationship.
Rule #2. Listen !! We mean really listen. When you are listening find a way to hold your partner important. Not more important than you, and not less either. When you hold each other important in any discussion you are really listening for your partner’s different view point. It’s really quite amazing what you might hear… even when you think you’ve heard it all before or you are so sure what they are going to say or do.
Rule #3. Don’t judge…Evaluate your relationship before marriage and in your marriage. Evaluating improves your chances for long-term success. There are three key criteria in particular to assess yourself, your general preparedness for a long loving and enduring marriage. These three key evaluation criteria are; 1. you, as an individual – your traits and skills to handle conflict, related stresses and communication, 2. you and your partner’s abilities to communicate with each other and 3. the situation in which you and your partner are currently influenced by, such as family history and significant role-models in your life. These three factors can predict marital dissatisfaction, satisfaction or long-term success of your relationship.
So, to help you and your partner, here is an exercise to assess your compatibility and competency to endure the relationship hurdles:
- List yours and your partner's five most fun activities – any similarities?
- Discuss how well you know your partner as well as your own likes and dislikes.
- Look at how familiar you are with your partner's current life-stressors, such as finances, job or career, weight and fitness, passions or interests, relatives and family commitments etc. Shock or surprise by any of the answers?
- Understanding the expectations of each other. How accepting of the situation are you? Are you flexible, willing to adjust and adapt? If your partner didn’t change, could you live with that?
You can Beat the odds! Blair and I consistently heard from family and friends “don’t work together if you are married – that will only spell failure”. Absolutely no one around us had anything good to say about a husband and wife successfully working together, but here we are twenty-two years later in marriage and twenty years as business partners, we are still alive and well and in love!
There is lots of hope for any of you who believe - in yourselves and each other!
