Okay, I’m back, and I’m here to disclose the mistakes I made while wedding planning…so far. I’m just under a year out from my wedding, so there is plenty of time for me to make more mistakes – and I will – but these are the three big ones I’ve made so far. The reason I’m writing this one so early is because I don’t want you to make the same mistakes I did, and they are very specific to the beginning stages of planning.
The first one is budgeting. I was way off on my budgeting. I guesstimated a lot of costs, and those guesstimates were far too low. Because of that, my original budget was way too small, and I set myself up for failure. I strongly recommend doing lots of legwork to make sure this doesn’t happen to you. Go get quotes, go to different venues (hotels vs. halls), talk to lots of rental agencies for décor to make sure you are getting a decent amount of information to allow yourself to budget appropriately.
The second one is not looking at more venues before booking one. I didn’t look at my dream venue before I booked my venue, which was a mistake right off the bat. I was convinced I couldn’t afford it, just based on word of mouth. Turns out I actually could, but by the time I checked out the venue, my wedding date was taken, and my guest list was too big. Now, I do love my venue that I have. I just wish I had checked out all the venues I wanted to before putting a deposit down and deciding on a date.
Third is discussing the guest list with my fiancé. We decided to each create a must-have guest list, and then just put them together. Instead, what we should have done is said “okay, our max is 100 people, we each get 50 people to invite”. See, I had that in my mind, but my fiancé needed it to be explicitly said – duh, communication. Classic example of being too excited about getting married that you miss important planning conversations. Anyway, now we’re about 40 more people than I had originally thought. What gets worse is that as time goes on, you gain new and important relationships (I just started a new job, and I am already very close to some new colleagues who I would love to invite). So some extra advice is this: leave some wiggle room. If your max you are willing to invite is 120, create a guest list of 100-110. That way you have that wiggle room to invite people later on!
Alright, that’s all I have for now. Be ready for more mistakes coming your way. You know there will be more! What were some of your big wedding planning mistakes? E-mail firstname.lastname@example.org and let us know!