Purchasing a wedding dress can be an exciting, yet stressful part of planning a wedding. With so many styles and fabrics to choose from, it can be a confusing decision for any bride; and this situation is only worsened by the amount of bridal gown terms out there. Here is a glossary of some of these terms – familiarizing yourself with these can really enhance your selection process.
LEVEL A - WE’VE HEARD THESE BEFORE
A-line: Refers to the silhouette of any gown that is in the shape of an A. Flattering on most body types.
Empire: A silhouette that is defined as having the band, or tightest part of the gown, just below the bust.
Halter: A neckline that fastens behind the neck.
Hi-lo: Refers to the length of the dress – short in the front and long in the back.
Capped: A sleeve length that just barely covers the shoulders, not any of the arm.
LEVEL B - SAY WHAT?
Taffeta: A fabric reserved for high-end garments. Is woven, and has a slight sheen.
Asymmetrical: A silhouette that is different on the left and right sides – typically these may have one sleeve, a ruffle or detail on one side, or an asymmetrical cut.
Cowl neck: Refers to a neckline characterized by draped fabric.
Tea: A length that ends just above the ankle.
Bell: A sleeve length that is tight along the arms and flares out at the wrists.
LEVEL C - HUH?
Sabrina: A straight neckline that begins inside the curve of the shoulder.
Blouson: A silhouette that is blousy, and gathered around a few inches of the waist.
Mini: Refers to a length that terminates at or above the knees.
Shantung: A fabric that crushes easily. It is characterized by a rough texture and made with silk.
Portrait collar: A folded, exaggerated collar.
PLANNING THE PARTY
THE DO’S AND DONT’S OF BRIDAL SHOWER GAMES
Some of us dread them; others can’t wait to take part. When it comes to bridal shower games, variety is crucial. It is always important to keep your audience in mind; while some people love to get up and get going, others prefer to sit and enjoy a quiet game or two. There are many popular bridal shower games out there which can be tailored to a diverse crowd.
Although it is arguably one of the most “cliché” bridal shower games, Bridal Bingo is popular for a reason. It is simple and affordable, most (if not all) people know the rules, and it’s good for both your loud extroverts (“BINGO!”) and more discreet individuals (“Um…bingo?”). To create this game is also uncomplicated. Buy or make bingo cards, but instead of “BINGO” at the top, write “BRIDE”. Then, instead of listing numbers under the heading, get creative! Write funny tidbits about the bride (So-and-so loves pancakes!) and details about the wedding (the date or location). Then it’s as simple as copying each of those details onto squares of paper and putting them in a bowl to be drawn out. Don’t forget to buy little prizes for the winners!
If you’re looking to start some great conversation and break a little of that thick ice, a perfect game is Two Truths and a Lie. The game works just as the title suggests: each guest writes down three stories or experiences they’ve had with the bride, two being truthful and one being a lie. The other guests then try to guess which the lie is. The great part about this game? The truths generally end up being the most hilariously crude of the three choices, making for some entertaining conversation!
This last game takes a bit of preplanning but it’s definitely worth it. The Newlywed Game is an enjoyable one that is terrific because it puts the bride in the centre of attention, letting the guests sit back and enjoy. For this game, you need to interview the groom before the bridal shower. Ask him questions about his bride- to-be: where did they meet, what was their first kiss like, what is her favorite food, who cleans the house the most? After you have scrounged up a bunch of answers, take those same questions to the bridal shower and lob them at the bride. It is hilarious to see the different answers each gives; guests and bride alike will all enjoy many laughs. If you want to take this a step further, you could even record the groom answering the questions and play it back to the bride (and if you record the bride too, these videos would make excellent additions to any presentation planned during the wedding reception!).
Regardless of what type of games you choose to include with the bridal shower, remember to know your audience. It is never fun to embarrass people, nor is it enjoyable to throw people into situations that make them uncomfortable. Let’s face it, some people will just roll their eyes at the mention of bridal shower games. However, if you can create a fun atmosphere that everyone can take part in, many laughs and memories will be shared.
PROFESSIONAL WEDDING PLANNERS VS. PLANNING YOUR OWN WEDDING:
Professional wedding planners are the creative geniuses behind many dream weddings. Many couples have demanding careers that do not enable them to have the time or energy to plan their special day the way they want it to be. Wedding consultants provide professional help and expertise. Their responsibilities include start to finish wedding planning, plus you gain the benefits of their connections with allied firms that are reputable and cost saving. Wedding planners can help free up your valuable time and money.
Most consultants charge a flat fee, or charge by the hour if you require help in a specific area. A lot of wedding planners have different service packages for as much or as little help as you require; from full wedding packages to hourly consultations.
Planners can help you in areas such as: your venue, invitations, salons, stylists, and more.
A great wedding consultant will work closely with the bride and groom to help understand exactly what you are looking for on your special day.
They work hard to see every detail flawlessly executed to your standards and within your budget.
Planning your own: Brides today are truly fortunate as there are many magazines and planning guides in the market to help create a dream wedding. Bridal shows like Bridal Fantasy are also a good venue for couples to get an overall view on the current wedding scene and great information on the products, venues, catering, fashion, and services that are needed for your special day. The internet also has amazing resources for brides; you can find information on anything you will need for your wedding day.
WEDDING DAY TRANSPORTATION
Today wedding parties are finding original modes of transportation ranging from limousines to horse drawn carriages, Lamborghini’s to hot air balloons, a vintage Rolls Royce to a bus. There are many options available!
TRADITIONAL ORDER OF PROCES- SION TO AND FROM THE CHURCH
There are traditionally three cars. The bride’s mother, Maid of Honour, and a couple of attendants arrive in the first car. The second car carries the rest of the attendants. The third car carries the bride and her father. The groom and his attendants should arrange their own transportation to the church beforehand.
ORDER OF PROCESSION AFTER THE CEREMONY
The bride and groom leave together in the car the bride and her father arrived in. The second car is for the parents of the bride and groom, and the rest of the bridal party leave in the third car.
QUESTIONS TO ASK WHEN BOOK- ING YOUR TRANSPORTATION:
- Are the vehicles available to view prior to the wedding?
- What is the minimum rental time?
- What about overtime availability and costs?
- Are there mileage limits?
- What is the deposit amount and when is the remainder due?
- Cancellation policies?
In approximately 46% of weddings today, the bride or groom has been previously married. As remarriages become more common, wedding etiquette regarding size and ceremony has become much more flexible. For example, a second wedding can be larger and more elaborate than the first if desired. However, there are special conditions that need to be considered.
- Announcements: Children of the couple should be the first to know, then their parents, friends and relatives.
- Invitations: Invitations are printed for large or formal remarriages; after a private ceremony, send announcements. The invitation’s wording should fit the circumstances properly.
- Ceremony: If you want to be remarried in a church, contact your clergy member right away, as certain remarriage regulations must be followed for religious services. Regardless of the ceremony size, the children of the bride or groom may participate as attendants. The bride is escorted (the bride is never “given away” a second time) by her father, brother, son or her husband to be, or may walk down the aisle on her own.
- Attire: Only two guidelines should be followed by the bride: she should never wear either a full face veil (it symbolizes virginity) or a long train (still exclusively worn by first brides). Otherwise, the bride can wear any color or style of wedding dress. The groom should follow the bride’s lead – he can wear anything from a tuxedo to jeans.
- Honeymoon: One necessity for any remarriage is a A practical way to solidify a new family is to split the honeymoon in half: the newlyweds spend half the time alone and can be joined for the other half of their honeymoon by their children, if desired.
THE GIFT OPENING
Your wedding does not end right after the reception. The day following the exchanging of vows is traditionally when the gift opening is held. This gathering often takes the form of a champagne breakfast, light brunch, or afternoon tea. The gift opening can take place in a variety of locations, from the home to the hall where the reception was held.
When opening the gifts, have someone record who each gift is from (usually the maid/matron of honour), to ensure that all gift givers are properly thanked.
WEDDING GOWN PRESERVATION
After your magical day, what do you do with your wedding gown? You paid dearly for it and you’re sure to feel extremely sentimental about it.
Your wedding gown also has major heirloom potential. While preservation is done after the wedding, you should have a plan in place beforehand.
Wedding gown preservation can be done at anytime, the sooner after the wedding, the better. Quickly preserving your dress means there is less of a chance for staining, or damage due to improper storage.
Come up with a list of reputable wedding gown preservationists and do your research before the wedding. This gives you a chance to create your list in a relaxed manner rather than in hurried desperation. Check references from friends; look them up with the Better Business Bureau and find out exactly what they offer, as each company is different.
Wedding gown preservation is a process completed by trained
professionals who carefully clean your gown, remove stains, and repair any damage that might have occurred.
These specialists know the proper techniques for cleaning bridal fabrics and working with the beading, pearls or jewels that might be on your dress.
After it has been thoroughly cleaned, your gown undergoes a safe chemical treatment to prevent “aging” of the dress; i.e.: yellowing and deterioration. Your gown is then placed into airtight packaging to further protect it. If you want to get your gloves, headpiece or veil preserved as well, most shops can do this along with your wedding gown. Some shops also include this in the price with your wedding gown, so make sure to find out.
Your beautiful bridal bouquet won’t last forever, unless you get it preserved. If you want to find someone who’ll do a great job of preserving your flowers, you’ll need to be prepared to ask lots of questions of potential candidates. How do they preserve their flowers? They should have a few different methods, as some flowers work better with freeze drying and others work better with sand. Do they guarantee their work?
Don’t forget that you will need to let your florist know that you plan on preserving your flowers so that they are as fresh as possible.
After the wedding day, keep your wedding flowers refrigerated and in water to prevent them from opening any further. If possible, have your flowers picked up from your reception. It saves you time and worry. Remember to check if there is a fee for this service. Try to keep some greenery in your bouquet; it adds a nice finishing touch.
Some flowers preserve better than others.
BEST AND WORST FLOWERS FOR PRESERVATION
- Roses: excellent (ask your florist for roses that will have a sculptured look, medium to large size)
- Alstromaris: fragile (these become trasparent)
- Casablanca Lilly: excellent
- Calla Lilly: excellent
- Carnations: excellent
- Delphinium: excellent
- Dahlia: fragile (shatters easily)
- Freesia: fragile (shrinks and becomes transparent
- Gardenia: excellent
- Hydrangea: excellent
- Lilac: fragile (shatters easily)
- Lily of the Valley: good
- Dendrobium/Catelya Orchids: excellent
- Phallanopsis Orchids: fragile (becomes trasparent)
- Peonies: excellent
- Stargazer Lily: excellent
- Sunflower: fragile (shatters easily)
- Tulips: fragile (shatters easily)
FOR NEWLY ENGAGED COUPLES
Becoming engaged is a time you and your partner will remember forever; it can be overwhelming while marvellous and exciting.
Below you will find some tips and suggestions for you during the hectic months to come:
- It can be difficult to compromise with one Each of you may have different ideas; but the important thing to remember is meeting each other half way.
- Communicating with your partner is the key to any relationship; make sure to listen to each That way you both know that your opinion does matter.
- While planning your wedding you should try to set a date for every second week that has nothing to do with planning your big That way you two can just focus on each other without all the excitement of your wedding.
- Get to know your partners family, after all they are going to be your future in-laws. Learning about your fiancés relatives is a great way to grow as a couple.
- Have priorities when it comes to planning your wedding; make sure that when you both are setting out your schedule that you are taking into account the more critical things verse the more easier Setting a timeline can be very beneficial.
- Keep in mind that it is up to only you two to plan your wedding day:
– what the cake will be like, who your band will be, what your china looks like, these are things that are all up to you two and no one else.
- It is important for you and your fiancé to seek pre-marriage You need to make sure that you both understand each other’s view on your future.
- Remember what is most Weddings are never just about the two of you (the honeymoon is)! That being said, take into consideration that you will need to learn how to work and cooperate with family members, the annoying cousins, or his/her ignorant best friend. For what it’s worth, at least you can look back and say that you had made the best of “those” moments of your life.
Lastly, remember that you are no longer going to be a me, but a we. Some topics that will need to be discussed before marriage are: personality differences, sexual expectations, and most of all money. Finances have made and broken families
and life time partners, all because there was no established mutual agreement to begin with or unrealistic standards for each other were set.